Driving around last night with a friend (one of the two friends I have), I thought about what I always think about when it's just us two dudes - - namely: I wish we had a broader circle of friends. This wish is counter to my loner nature. I guess I'm conflicted or something. I've said before that the best friend for a loner is another loner. The best circle of friends for a loner, then, must be a circle of loners. At what point do loners fall out of the category of loner and become non-loners? Maybe I shouldn't be thinking in these terms and using this label, loner.
Earlier yesterday in our roaming, we were in a spiritual bookstore, and I saw a guy who looked really familiar. I realized he was a guy whose picture I'd seen a lot at meetup.com. He initiates lots of spiritual meetups, but I don't think they are very well attended. I was thinking, Wow, I should talk to that guy. It would have been weird though. Hi. I recognize you from your photo - - because I've considered attending one of the many meetup groups you've initiated - but - for some reason - I never have.
You know what I love about your posts and your blog? In this age of FB and friend tallying, there you are, unabashedly talking about your one of two friends, and I love it! Loner has some weird connotations sometimes. But for we folks who prefer to surround ourselves with either just ourselves or a very select few, it is just what feels right. I second guess everything, or I used to more so when I was younger. I would have regretted not going up to the guy in the store in my earlier years. Now I would have approached him, but I would have been red-faced and it would have worn me out for the rest of the day -used up my quota of spontaneous social interaction. I think what you have to say is often funny and I hope you have time, with your busy work week, to post more often.
ReplyDeleteI don't think that would be weird. The bravery of talking to him at all would have cancelled out the allusion to being antisocial.
ReplyDeleteI liked your question though as to how many loners does it take to make a person social!
Hello Al_One,
ReplyDeleteI and my wife will do things together but rarely get together with anyone else, and we like it this way. Plus we spend a lot of time by ourselves away from each other at home, in which we find very relaxing!