I have met some really interesting people - people who - even though they were truly fascinating and fun, I never really hit it off with them...long term...because...it seemed to me: They were a bit ...course. They were critical of me. Or they got their kicks foolin around, taking jabs at me (or whoever) - you know - pickin at ya...pickin at whoever. I guess it was just for fun...not necessarily harmful. But my reaction was: Screw this. I don't need the aggravation.
Well. Maybe I do need the aggravation. Maybe a little criticism might lead me to a little self-improvement. Maybe a little self-improvement might lead me to a broader circle of friends.
Or: Maybe it will change me into somebody I don't want to be...namely...a douche bag. A callous, insensitive douche bag. Up to this point I just haven't seen the point in mixing it up with people who constantly pick at each other, who force you to 'conform' or get out or whatever. I have had my own thoughts and opinions. I like my thoughts and opinions. I like my quirks. Quirks don't cut it in the clique though, I guess. I'm sure there's a balance, a middle path. What do you think?
I think people who pick on others are asses. I will say that I think men seem to communicate with their buddies this way where as women are more nurturing. Of course, this is not always the case because I have met a lot of women that are just plain cruel. Men seem to have fun with their jabs and don't intentionally be mean-spirited.
ReplyDeleteThat said, I am really sensitive and a loner. I really do prefer the company of my fiancé, kids, dad and my siblings. I like my cat more than I like most women.